Sandra Hayes-Davis
Member Status: Accredited
Member No: NCS18-06643
Location: Eastleigh
Why me?
I specialise in helping people with anxiety, low self-esteem and relationships issues and I often find that these go hand in hand. Anxiety and/or low self-esteem often impacts on our relationships and difficulties in our relationships often cause us anxiety and low self-esteem. In addition, there are often underlying factors such as stress, depression, grief and childhood trauma. This list is not exhaustive, and I work holistically with all these issues.
I work in a supportive and facilitative way but can also be direct and provide gentle challenge, working with young people (16+) and adults, individuals, couples and families. I offer both short term (6-8 weeks) solution focused therapy, using CBT tools and longer-term person-centred therapy, as well as other creative ways of working. I have a vast array of tools, techniques and templates for all manner of issues that have proven to be incredibly beneficial in repairing and healing the lives of those I have worked with.
I believe that therapy is about forming a relationship, working with a person you can both trust and feel a connection with is vital. I would also say it is probably the most important element of successful therapy, so I offer a complimentary 15-minute telephone introduction for us to get to know each other. I can answer any questions or fears you may have whilst you decide if I am the right person for you. If after speaking on the phone you decide you’d like to move things forward I offer an initial one off paid, no obligation session, we will be going through some history and the presenting problem. It is also an opportunity to get to know each other a little to see if you feel comfortable with me and want to continue.
Counselling for Anxiety and low Self-esteem
I understand from personal experience how debilitating anxiety and low self-esteem can be. I also know how frustrating it is when someone suggests the common coping strategies, such as square breathing and expecting you to magically feel better.
We are all different and what works for one person may not work for another. If you would like some coping strategies and grounding techniques to help with the physical symptoms of anxiety, I will happily teach you some. More importantly, I will help you explore what may be causing your anxiety and/or low self-esteem, and together we will work in various ways to overcoming this.
Imagine a life without anxiety and/or low self-esteem holding you back. I can help you to achieve that and would be honoured to be a part of that journey.
Counselling for Relationship issues
Our relationships with our family, friends and work colleagues are a hugely important part of our lives. When we are having issues with one of these relationships, it tends to impact on other areas.
Many people come to me with relationship issues difficulties with their relationship with their: spouse/partner, parents, siblings, children, work colleagues or boss, and it’s making them miserable.
We explore these difficulties and what may be causing them so that changes can be made. Whilst we cannot change the way another person behaves and reacts, we can influence these behaviours and responses by adapting how we behave and communicate.
There are often patterns in our relationships, caused by our core beliefs, our behaviours and our communications style. Recognising these patterns is the first step to making changes to break this cycle.
Together we can explore these issues, even if the relationship is in the past, so that you can heal, better understand yourself and possibly the other person. This understanding is the first step in making changes that will improve and strengthen your relationship.
Couples counselling
Many of my clients come to me feeling hopeless, lost in their relationships, unable to move forward or reconnect with their partners. Whatever difficulties you are experiencing in your relationship, whether you’re dealing with intimacy issues, recovering from an affair, or feeling stuck and unable to move forward, I am here to support you.
My role as a couple’s therapist is to remain neutral and provide the right environment for two people to journey together through these difficult times, helping them rebuild their self-esteem and confidence, whilst rediscovering the joy and connection they crave.
Couples and relationship therapy is suitable for any couple, heterosexual or same-sex, or any family, such as mother and daughter.
Where and when
I am easy to get to; I have a comfortable room in Central Eastleigh within a few minutes’ drive from both the M27 and the M3 and a few minute walk from the bus and train stations, and close to local parking.
I predominately work in person, but I also work online via Microsoft Teams.
Therapy is usually weekly, but I understand this does not work for everyone, whether that be timewise or financially, therefore fortnightly is also an option.
I work weekdays and evenings and aim to be as flexible as possible to accommodate those working shifts or from home with varying meeting times.
Please contact me or visit my website for further information. www.sandrahdcounselling.co.uk
