James Martin
Member Status: Accredited
Member No: NCS22-03010
Location: Bristol
Asking for help can feel like a weakness. It is anything but. It is brave. Saying everything is fine when empty inside leave us suffering in silence.
I first learned this when I was 15. It started with Ricky P who became an inspiration to me. Ricky was a shy teenager, and I was his cricket captain.
Ricky was warm hearted, quiet and funny when you got to know him. He was also easy to miss in a group because he wasn't loud and didn't promote himself. He was also scared of letting people down and he really cared what other people thought of him.
Ricky was probably an introvert suffering from low self-esteem and social anxiety, but I didn’t know those terms back then.
The biggest lesson Ricky taught me was that if you pay attention to how people are and what they say (or don’t say) you can see how to help them be at their best.
In Ricky’s case that meant a private discussion, listening to his fears and helping him realise his own strengths and his importance to the team.
We were successful that year not because we had the best players but because we became the best team. Ricky was our inspiration. He found a new freedom and we all raised our efforts because we were inspired to show up and strive for what was possible rather than being trapped by fear of failing or not being enough.
In my professional career, mentoring and in voluntary roles I have being lucky enough to meet hundreds of people like Ricky and help them reach new levels of freedom, peace of mind and performance.
Years working as a corporate lawyer solving problems for others was rewarding but not inspirational.
My inspiration flows from helping people experience the power of understanding who they are, what drives them and how they relate to the world and the people in it.
I look forward to starting a conversation to explore how I can help you too.
